QUICK TIP For Pen/Pencil Hold
A relaxed hold needs an open palm.
For young children ask them to write with a cotton ball held in the palm with the ring and little fingers. The writing finger drives the pencil; the thumb and third finger stabilize it.
Older persons do the same but with a larger, soft ball. A ball of yarn; a soft, rubber ball; or a dampened piece of sponge will do well.